TERM 3, WEEK 5
I was reading some articles on the loss of loyalty happening in our times and it was interesting to read that one of the keys to maintaining loyalty is the concept of being accepting. As we live in a society that is getting more and more self focussed, with mindsets of importance being things like, “what's the best for me?" “What can I get out of this situation?” and other similar thoughts, we are indeed becoming more miserable because as we know the best way to kick off the doldrums is to do things for others. At any time in my life when I have been going down a me first trail it has led to me feeling ultimately sadder than when I spend my time pouring out and putting others first.
In a school situation there is nothing worse than a broken friendship where two friends are no longer friends. This kind of thing can have long lasting effects with feelings such as rejection, sadness, disappointment, despair and unfaithfulness being emotions an individual has to work through over and over again. As parents, what can we do to help our children remain loyal to those who have hurt them? One of my favourite scriptures is found in Proverbs 17:17 and it reads, “A friend loves at all times.”
Teaching our children to love through every phase of their friendships is such a vital thing. At Bethel we are equipping the students with keys to doing this. Restorative principles when dealing with conflict and added to that the ‘Peacewise’ principles of forgiveness, apologies, pausing, loving and making choices that keep us on top of the slippery slope. Have a look at the slippery slope below for ways you can help your child stay on top of the slippery slope.
Sometimes the school gets blamed for failed friendships, or for not doing enough to fix a particular situation between individuals, but I can ensure you we take your child’s happiness, friendships and incidents classed as bullying very seriously. The main thing we want to do is equip them, because as they move from one place to another, if they don’t add skills to their knowledge the same problems follow them. Escaping is not the answer, blaming others never helps, but learning to overcome, speak, stand up for yourself, get help when needed and other things that bring peace to any given situation can be the answer.
So far at school this year we have been introducing Bethel Atmospheres and we have been continuing on with Peacewise principles. Mr Kennedy, the staff and myself are also doing a lot of work on implementing ‘Restorative Principles’ into all aspects of our daily conversations with students. Coming up and in to 2020 we will also be looking at running some parent workshops to help us all be on the same page when it comes to helping equip our children for the world in which they live.
Matthew 22:36-39 reads, “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: "Love your neighbour as yourself."