Speaking the Same Language at School and Home
Over the next few weeks the newsletters will be outlining principles about the “Peacewise’ approach that we use at school when dealing with any sort of conflict or issues that arise. Several years ago I sent a ‘Peace Pack’ home for families outlining these principles. These packs are full of great ways to work through issues that arise with our children.
Friendships will be one of your children’s main events during school. Sometimes friendships are good and sometimes they are hard work. It is our role to guide our children through the ups and especially the downs of their friendships with others. What we teach them will be with them for life. If our children were to get a good handle on the principles from Peacewise they would really help to set them up for adulthood, marriage, work and the relationships of life in general.
Peacewise Principle No: 1 – The Slippery Slope.
When you get into conflict or upset about a situation you have choices. The choices you make can change the course or direction of you day, year or even your life. The slippery slope gives us clear ideas about the right choices to make. These are found on top of the slope in the ‘Work-it-out’ section. This shows us that the best things to do are to overlook an offence, talk about it to the person you have an issue with or to get help. There are lots of trained staff at Bethel that can help you and your child through these steps.
When we have conflict the easter thing to do is to get into fight or flight mode. The slippery slope calls this ‘escape’ or ‘attack’. When you are in the danger zone of the escape mode you will want to run away, blame others or deny you even have an issue. The only problem with doing this is that matters can’t get resolved. In the fight mode you will be tempted to put others down, gossip about them or fight with them. These choices will always cause the problem to get bigger and worse.
As Christians we are called to be peacemakers. When we put Biblical principles and strategics in plane our lives, we will still face trials. but we will have the necessary strategies to get us through these trials. Matthew 5:9 reads, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.”
Over the next few weeks when reading the newsletters try and speak the ‘Peacewise’ language to your children when they are facing difficulties. I have asked the teachers to do this as well. When we speak the same language and school and at home it is a powerful tool to help grow your children into amazing young men and women.